Funeral Tributes Basildon / Stanford le Hope to Shoeburyness
Funeral Customs by religion, Ethnicity, and Culture – Part 1
The death of friends or loved ones is a dramatically emotional and trying time, so it’s especially important to be aware of the correct funeral etiquette to avoid offending or upsetting anyone.
This is just a short guide to help you honour the customs and traditions of different faiths, religious or cultural beliefs at a viewings, wakes, funerals, cremations, or graveside services.
Protestant – Methodist, Lutheran, Baptist, Presbyterian, and Episcopalian
There are many appropriate ways to express sympathy including sending cards, attending a visitation or going to the funeral, however you can also send flowers direct to the family home or the funeral home. You can also donate to a charity if the family have designated a preference or personal choice, or bringing sympathy food, meals are a touching way to show love and support the bereaved family. Sharing food – especially a home-made meal – or sharing comfort by sending a meaningful gift is often remembered long after the funeral.
Protestant funeral ceremony’s express the afterlife and celebrations of the deceased through testimonials and storys of the life and times of their loved ones. Protestant ministers usually conduct the service by including the deceased family and friends. Funeral guests dress appropriately, and respectably, however many people no longer wear traditional black clothing.
Respectable and sombre flower arrangements may be sent to either the funeral home or directly to the family’s residence. Donations may also be appropriate and may be sent to a charity of the family’s choice in the name of the deceased.
Catholics hold a Vigil (Wake) before the funeral. Candles and floral arrangements decorate the wake, as well as at the funeral service and the burial ground. It is customary here to make a short visit and pray for a few moments beside the deceased before visiting with the family members.
A Requiem (Funeral Mass) is performed in the Catholic church by the priest. At Mass, mourners will light a candle to celebrate the deceased and this is comforting to the mourners. After the burial has taken place, the family and friends gather at the home of one of the close family members, where they will share food and drink from family and friends.
Hispanic Religion corresponds to Roman Catholic rituals among most Hispanic groups. As children many were raised practising typical Roman Catholic Sunday mass and funeral traditions. The wake itself may include mariachis, or overnight visitations, that includes a family feast. Floral tributes are more than welcome. Here a simple bouquet given to a bereaved family member or a simple tribute in the form of a cross or indeed a personalised candle makes acceptable gifts, as will lighting a candle at the church.
Personal items and gifts are often laid in the casket to help the deceased have journey to a better place in the afterworld. A burial follows the ceremony and following the burial, the family usually gather to eat, comfort and reminisce.
Mexican and Central American beliefs often include the belief that there are days when the dead return, and they walk among us, visiting their loved ones’, their bodies may have passed but their spirits live on enabling them pray to them, and turn to them for guidance and support.
Here Charitable donations are very much a fitting memorial gift, please note that flowers may not appropriate. The Rabbi performes a service and the burial generally takes place within 24 hours of death. Funeral attire here consists of rose-coloured clothing. It is appropriate for men to wear a head covering (yarmulke) which will be provided by the funeral home.
After the service, the immediate family sits in mourning or “Shiva” in their home for seven days. It is customary here for family, friends and associatess to come by the home and pay their respects to the family, this is called as paying a Shiva call. Foods are welcome: desserts, fruit, and Kosher food baskets are a traditionally gift sent to the home, here, flowers may also not appropriate for a Shiva call so please check if you intend to send flowers.